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Not all sleep challenges show up the same way.

Some children fall asleep quickly but wake during the night. Others stay in bed all night but resist bedtime for hours. Sleep disruption isn’t always across the board—but knowing where things feel hardest helps you respond more effectively.

Many parents report that either bedtime or night-time sleep is the sticking point—but not always both.

Which part of your child's sleep feels hardest to manage right now?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

Naps are inconsistent or a fight

Nights are broken or high effort

Both day and night sleep are equally hard to manage

Sleep mostly works across day and night

It changes all the time / hard to tell

Night waking isn’t just for babies.

At this age, night disruptions often come from fears, nightmares, or a child seeking comfort and connection. These aren’t “bad habits”—they’re part of emotional and cognitive growth. But the toll on the household can still be very real.

Some preschoolers sleep through the night consistently, while others still wake and need parental support.

What matters most is whether it feels manageable—or completely draining.

How are you coping with night waking right now?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

They wake, but we both settle easily

Some wakes are fine, others feel like survival - it's getting harder

It’s constant, and I feel like I’m breaking

I’d prefer not to say

Doesn’t apply to our situation

Night comfort is still common—but it should feel sustainable.

By preschool age, most children no longer need feeds overnight—but many still wake looking for water, a cuddle, or reassurance. These wakings aren’t necessarily a problem unless they’re frequent, prolonged, or leaving the whole family exhausted.

The key question isn’t “does my child ever wake at night?” but rather “is the way we’re responding working for us?”

Henderson et al., 2010, Pediatrics

Do night feeds feel like they’re still serving a clear purpose?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

Feeds are functional and we settle well

Sometimes they help, sometimes they don’t

Feeds don’t seem to settle anything anymore

They need a lot of help—and only from me

Settling is intense, no matter who’s trying

I’d prefer not to say

Not applicable / no night feeds

Bedtime strategies change—and sometimes stop working.

By 3–5 years, toddlers and preschoolers are more independent, imaginative, and strong-willed. What once worked—rocking, lying beside them, or reading multiple stories—may now take longer or fail completely.

This isn’t regression. It’s a sign of growing awareness, emotions, and the need for clear boundaries. Bedtime resistance, repeated requests (“one more story, one more drink”), or needing a parent present to fall asleep are common—but can quickly become draining if they’re the only path to sleep.

How would you describe your current settling routine?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

They settle easily with minimal input

It varies—we’re still figuring it out

I’m the only one who can settle them

Settling takes intense effort, even for me

I’d prefer not to say

You’re halfway through. This is where new insight often starts to click.

Rhythm doesn’t need to be rigid—but it should feel readable.
Many families in this stage start to feel pressure to choose between “routines” and “cues.” The truth is, either can work—if they make sense to you. But if you’re constantly guessing, it may be time to recalibrate.

How confident are you in your current rhythm?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

I feel confident we’ve found a rhythm that works

We go with the flow, but I second-guess it often

I’m totally unsure what they need or when

Doesn’t apply / no rhythm

Life transitions show up in sleep.

Preschoolers feel changes deeply. Starting childcare, moving rooms, new siblings, illness, or changes in routines can all add pressure. Even if your child’s needs are being met, these shifts affect the whole sleep system.

Sleep often unravels during big transitions—even when the cause isn’t obvious. What looks like “sudden bedtime battles” or “new night waking” is often your child processing change.

Are there other challenges adding to the pressure?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

No—sleep is the only real issue right now

Yes—some challenges are present, such as returning to work, adding a new sibling, recent illness, or emotional transition

Yes—multiple significant pressures are stacking and affecting day-to-day capacity (e.g. persistent feeding struggles, mental load, caregiving imbalance, health flags)

I’d prefer not to say

You’re not meant to function without rest.
Parents in this age group often feel like they should “have it figured out by now”—but that belief is what leads to burnout. If you’re coping, that matters. If you’re not, that matters too.

Parental sleep deprivation has measurable mental health impacts—even months after birth.

(Okun et al., 2018, Journal of Behavioral Medicine)

How are you coping with your own sleep?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

Yes—I’m mostly coping okay

I’m pushing through, but I feel it

No—I’m completely depleted

I’d prefer not to say

It’s okay if this feels hard.
Disrupted sleep takes a toll—on your confidence, your relationships, and your wellbeing. That’s not weakness. That’s a system asking for relief.

Which best describes how you’ve felt recently?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

I’ve felt grounded or myself most days

Up and down—but I’m managing

Flat, anxious, or disconnected

I’d prefer not to say

Sometimes sleep struggles are symptoms.
For preschoolers, sleep issues aren’t always “just behavioural.” Discomfort from allergies, asthma, tummy troubles, or sensory sensitivities can disrupt sleep before anything else shows up.

You don’t need a diagnosis to notice something’s off—if sleep feels unusually hard despite consistent routines, it may be worth looking deeper.

Do you have any medical, sensory or developmental concerns?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

No—I feel confident everything’s okay

Maybe—I’ve noticed a few things I’m not sure about

Yes—I have concerns that haven’t been explored

I’d prefer not to say

How it feels matters.
Is sleep something you’re managing—or something you’re constantly adapting to? This is less about hours, and more about whether your system can actually hold the weight.

Final question — then your Sleep Competency results.

Which best describes your current relationship with sleep?

You might relate to more than one option — that’s completely normal. Choose the one that feels most true for right now. There’s no wrong answer. Once you select, you’ll automatically move to the next question. *

It works. Not perfect, but sustainable

I have some concerns that either my child or I aren’t getting the sleep we need

It’s inconsistent—I’m always adapting

It feels like survival most days

I’d prefer not to say

Almost there.

These last questions help us understand how families access support and where future tools are needed.

You can skip them if you choose, they do not affect the Sleep Competency Score
Note: If you're a professional supporting a family using this tool, we welcome collaboration. Jocelyn Sleep partners with early years teams to extend care that’s aligned, respectful, and research-informed.

Have you accessed Sleep Support before?

What kind of support have you explored or tried?

If you haven’t asked for help yet, what’s held you back?

Would you like a personalised follow-up based on your answers?

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You’ve completed the Sleep Scorecard

Based on your answers, we’ve mapped your current sleep setup to one of four Sleep Competency categories. These categories reflect how your family’s sleep system is functioning—emotionally, logistically, and developmentally. None of them are a diagnosis. They’re a starting point for support that matches your real experience.

Your result doesn’t define your parenting. It reflects how your family’s sleep system is functioning—emotionally, logistically, and developmentally—so we can point you toward aligned support.

You made it. Whatever your score, you’ve taken a practical step toward understanding what’s behind the disruption.

Thank you for pausing to reflect. That alone matters.

Welcome to the 3 - 5 years

Sleep Scorecard